Controversial Topic Vol 1, Issue 1: Abortion

Warning: Read at your own risk. Some topics may be heavy and hard for others to read about. This is going to be a slightly aggressive take on abortion so be warned.

There have been a lot of controversial issues throughout our world. It has not been only occurring in the 21st century of course. I have wanted to talk about controversial topics for a long time because I have been personally accused of certain things concerning my opinion. I have never been able to share my opinion or belief with a lot of people before and my blog is a way for me to share my voice. I do not have to be afraid to talk on my blog. I am not afraid to speak out loud either but people are good at making you into someone you are not. People are good at manipulating situations that you may not be able to control.

I am going to try my best to keep an open mind in regard to other people's opinions about the topics I choose to discuss. I then invite you to be open-minded about what I have to say too. However, I believe in what God wants us to do. If God for example says we should not kill our children then obviously I am going to be on God's side. God is the way, the truth, and the life. That is the only debate I will never change my mind about. God is not even debatable. He is the way and always will be. (I will get into this line of thought more later on in the discussion.)

The reason why I say that I am going to try to stay as open-minded as I can is because I know what my personality is like. I am a passionate person when it comes to topics I am interested in or general areas of interest. I am passionate and loud but I realize too that I am not always right in everything I think. I may stand strong in what I think but that is okay because people can learn to agree to disagree without insulting one another. That being said, if you would like to share your opinion about the topics I discuss in my blog please feel free to do so BUT, I will NOT tolerate any kind of disrespect. I will NOT tolerate insults towards me, my belief, or towards other people. My blog is my space but it can also be shared with you. Let us keep the conversations civil and to the degree of respect, we must all give one another. Let me be clear by saying that I can remove you from my blog and stop you from interacting. My blog is meant to share and discuss issues of importance and so forth. Feel free to read my author section.

Okay! Let us dive right in!

Abortion: Good or bad?

First I will define what abortion is for those that do not understand what I am about to discuss.

Abortion:

The deliberate termination of a human pregnancy is most often performed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy. (Google definition)

If you think about a ship on the ocean and the captain yells, "Abort ship, abort all ports!" Well, that is kind of the same thing. Basically, the child/embryo/fetus is removed from the mother which usually means the child dies. Let us not confuse abortion with a miscarriage. A miscarriage is when the mother has a baby too early or something goes wrong where the child dies either inside the mom or outside the mom. It is something that happens on accident while abortion is something on purpose.

There are a lot of opinions about women's rights and women's bodies concerning the topic of abortion. I am going to divide this topic up in a couple of different ways so that I can stay organized. The main part of this topic will only be discussing consented sex involving abortion. The reason I say this is because more research needs to be done on my end before I can give my opinion about non-consented sex concerning abortion such as rape or abuse.

Let us first take a look at what God says in the Bible about abortion. Now, if you do not believe in God then that is fine but I will still be bringing God in. God has said that we must populate the earth. We are made in the image of God. We are His children therefore abortion should not be an option. Here are pieces of scripture that can confirm my point. In Exodus 20:13 God says, "You shall not murder." This verse is for any kind of murder. God clearly states you shall not murder whether that be adults, children, family members, and so on. Here are a couple of other verses stating how special children are and why they should not be aborted.

Psalm 139:13-16 explains that every child is made uniquely by God. "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. Jeremiah 1:5 says "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations."

The last piece of scripture I would like to share with you is from Proverbs 6:16-19, “There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brother.”

There are a lot of Bible verses we can turn to concerning abortion. The main idea here is that every child is unique, they are innocent but born into a broken world, and they are gifts from God. A child cannot choose to be in this life. A child comes from two people who have decided to lie down with one another (sex). The mom and dad have made a choice and from their choice, a child is often conceived.

Now that we have that in order, I would like to move on to some of the most irritating phrases I hear in the 21st century concerning abortion and women’s rights. Since I am a woman, I can discuss this but if you are not a woman you have no right to say anything about it, correct? I am here to tell you that, that is ridiculous. I will explain why in a few moments.

Here are the phrases that are common. You may have other examples of your own.

“No uterus, no opinion.”

“My body, my choice.” Right, but when the father actually wants to be a father that does not matter right? This is a selfish statement.

“Babies are parasites.” This is the worst statement in my opinion. It quite ruins my respect for all those who say this phrase. It is dehumanizing as others like to call it.

“A clump of cells is not life.” This is ridiculous and untrue.

“Life begins when the baby has lived experiences.” Another untrue statement.

All these phrases and statements to me are an excuse to allow abortion to occur. I am discussing consented sex between two people so let me run with that. You have a couple that chooses to have consented sex and they are to believe that they will not become pregnant. On their part, they are not informed/knowledgeable of the consequences of sex. Does that mean they should be allowed to abort their baby just because they did not take into consideration that the mom would become pregnant? I think abortion is morally wrong but also that it truly takes away the responsibility from the parents. It is not the child’s fault that they are in conception or there at all. The parents have decided between the two of them to have consented sex resulting in pregnancy which has nothing to do with the child. So, now they want to abort their child for nothing. The child is beautiful and a gift of their love, but they decide to kill their own child. It sounds dire but it is the truth. Many people are not willing to believe it. It is the same thing as murder. No person should be getting rid of their children. The solution is... DO NOT have sex if you are not ready to be responsible for a child. It is that simple, but I am sure that there are many arguments against what I am saying. To me, it seems like the logical decision to make but for decades, we have been hooked on temporary pleasure moments not clearly thinking about the consequences. It is unfair to take poor human decision-making onto our beloved children. They are pure and precious and should be raised in the correct way no doubt. Abortion is like an exit ticket to your poor judgments. Not only that but it is morally wrong. You would say the same thing for a murderer. Some people would even condemn a murderer to death but think that abortion is okay. It is the same thing. However, I am not saying that people should condemn others to death. That is wrong too. What I am saying is that human beings are very hypocritical and judgmental but do not consider their own actions.

Abortion just like many controversial topics has become a conversation of complex arguments. It could have been simple. Abortion is wrong. Racism is wrong. Murder is wrong. Taking drugs and alcohol is wrong. So on and so forth. Everything has become a debate in the 21st century. Everyone is either wrong or no one is right. Everyone is either for or against it. It is crazy to me how the world and the people have developed in this “woke” 21st-century way of life and thinking. I am not sure if “woke” is the right word, but it is clear to me that we are in deep need of God. I know that there are people who believe in God and a majority of those know right from wrong, but many still lack God in their lives.

Okay so, moving forward. Let me discuss the phrase about children being parasitic. It is one of the worst phrases and statements that I have heard. It is ironic to use that phrase because the people saying it would not be alive today if it was not for their mother and father. Yes, a child functions like a “parasite” if you would like to say that. Yes, the child is inside the mom’s womb and the child "sucks" out the nutrients it needs from the mom. However, a parasite usually kills its host. Then again, someone will argue against me saying that babies kill their mothers sometimes. Yes, while that may be true, it does not mean a child is a parasite. In some instances a baby increases the immune system of the mother. This may be a personal problem for me, so I am unsure of what this means for other people. I will never think of my child as a parasite and God does not call children parasites either. It is a dehumanizing term used to justify the actions of abortion. I think it is a ridiculous term to compare children to. Another problem with this term is that it completely diminishes how much the mom’s body and baby must work together to survive. It is amazing how a human can have a baby growing inside them. A mother is literally building a life inside of her and that is truly something special. I do not think people understand how intricate it is to grow life inside of you and that your body is able to complete that process. It is obvious that the child is going to use the nutrients and food from the mom to live. How does one expect a child to sustain itself? Where is the logical thinking on that? It is obvious that the child will need some way to survive so saying that a baby is a parasite is destroying the meaning of what it is to grow and bear a child. The child is formed from the mother’s DNA and the father’s DNA. It is a strong bond that creates life inside the mother. It is a gift. I will not reduce the complex and beautiful creation of a child to a parasite.

The first phrase(s) from the list I would like to discuss is, “My body, my choice.” And “no uterus, no opinion.” These are two interesting phrases. First, from a Biblical point of view. It is not your body but God’s body. Yes, some will be laughing at this sentence, but God created you. Therefore, your body and spirit belongs to God if you are willing to give it to Him. Regardless, it still belongs to Him whether you believe in Him or not. Second, while your body is your own, it does not mean you should ruin it or neglect what it can do. While it is your physical body, it still does not give you an excuse to kill your children. I am sorry to say but that is what I think. If you do not want a child, then do not have sex. Thirdly, I do know that the phrase, “my body, my choice,” goes along with different controversial topics concerning more about women’s rights. This can include being sexually harassed or abused. I want to keep the conversation simple for now so I will only be focusing on that phrase in terms of abortion specifically. I can later discuss those topics in the future.

The phrase, “no uterus, no opinion,” is another popular statement that multiple women make. Women are not the only ones who make that statement. I believe that men and women are different from one another. Most men do not always understand women and most women do not always understand men. We think too differently from one another, and our bodies are not the same either. I think that men should be allowed to have a say in abortion because if they are having a child with someone and the mother decides to abort the baby. It is obvious that the man will most likely want a say in the matter. I understand that some men do not want accountability and that some men run away after they have impregnated a woman. While that happens, it is not the case for all men. There are men who WANT their babies. There are men who WANT their babies to live. So, yes, men should have a say when their woman decides that she wants an abortion. It is wrong to leave the father out of it. Once again, I am trying to keep the topic simple for now. There are more complications to that train of thought but for a basic scenario excluding abnormalities the child may have, whether the father is fit for the child, the relationship between the parents, financial situations, and so on. I do think that men should be included in this kind of decision because it is also their baby. The mother did not have the child by herself. There are always men involved whether people want to believe it or not. The father should get to save the baby if he wants to. (He should). The statement of, “no uterus, no choice,” now excludes men and their fatherly instincts to want children. Having a child is not a singular job. It is a bond shared between two people who hopefully love each other and will work together to raise that child(ren). The man should not be excluded from such a decision. Women are emotionally built and sometimes we do not make the right choices. We do not make the rational choices. Women rely on men to sustain human life and that is a fact that people are not willing to admit. Especially when it comes to feminist women.

I notice that in a lot of debates concerning abortion, people debate about when human life really begins. It is a little humorous to me that people cannot understand the difference between life and death. Life begins when you are in your mom essentially. Some people argue that life does not begin until the baby has actual life experiences. This is untrue, to say the least. Even though the baby is not doing anything specific inside the mom, it does not mean that it is not alive. Another argument is that a clump of cells is not a being or does not count as a baby. Here is my problem with that. A clump of cells is still alive, and it has the potential to become a baby. Therefore, in my eyes, it is life, and it counts. If a child is already growing in the mom, then that counts as life. It counts as a being. A human life. If there is nothing there then it does not matter because there is nothing there. That simple. A fetus, baby, embryo, and cells are all life. They are living and growing. It does not matter at which stage the baby’s growth is at. If it is there then it is present and alive. Feel free to let me know whether this is accurate in your point of view or not.

Overall, I am personally against abortion but I understand that there are specific scenarios and situations where a child unfortunately cannot be saved. Our world is complex and there are many bad things that happen in our lives. It is not always easy to make such big decisions concerning a child's life or a person's life. God is the only one who can decide when life and death happen but human beings are controlling. We like to control everything in our lives and it has turned our lives upside down. Everyone is in a different mindset and opinion about issues that are personal to them or not at all. The only real answer we can always turn to is God. He is our saviour and we must start trusting in Him.

In the future I would like to continue discussing some information about abortion but as I said earlier. I need to do some more research on my end to properly discuss the specifics of everything surrounding the issue. I am currently busy with school so it might take me a while. I try to write when I have time. Thank you for reading and I hope to continue this discussion soon.